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Repair No Matter Wha

Repair No Matter What By Vagdevi Meunier, Psy.D. I received a beautiful poem about repair from my spiritual teacher, Dale Goldstein that inspired me to write this blog post. I have separated the poem into smaller parts for the sake of commenting on each segment. The Joins  What's between us often seems flexible as the webbing between forefinger and thumb. Seems flexible, but it's not; what's between…

TAKE THAT RING AND SHOVE IT...RIGHT BACK ON YOUR FINGER

TAKE THAT RING AND SHOVE IT ? RIGHT BACK ON YOUR FINGER On a rainy, tearful, traumatic Wednesday evening four months ago ? Jason angrily ripped the ring from his finger, tossed it in the sock drawer and slammed it shut. That was the last time he planned to ever wear his wedding ring. The bond was shattered, promises broken ? he saw no way back. That was the evening he discovered Lena had slept with…

"Creating Connections" in the Netherlands?

"CREATING CONNECTIONS" IN THE NETHERLANDS ? Urban legend has it that over 60 years ago, the late, great Walt Disney stumbled upon a secret that captured his imagination, created a vision and ultimately made the world a better place. That secret, discovered in the quaint Dutch town of Kaatsheuvel was a newly developed, family attraction, located far from major cities, in the rural center of the Netherlands.…

Gottman Thunder from Down Under

GOTTMAN THUNDER DOWN UNDER Two weeks in Australia has made one thing abundantly clear ? the Gottman approach to working with couples is alive and well. Thanks to the efforts of Relationship Institute Australasia, created by the dynamic duo of Trish Purnell-Webb and John Flanagan, two Aussie Gottman trained clinicians with big plans and boundless energy ? the streets of Oz are buzzing. Clinical trainings…

5 Ways To Provide More Effective Couples Therapy

5 Ways to Provide More Effective Couples Therapy  [caption id="attachment_2186" align="alignleft" width="90"] Dr. Vagdevi Meunier[/caption] If you are a clinician looking to begin or improve your practice as a couples therapist, you might experience some trepidation and self-doubt in your ability to help couples. Let me assure you that you are not alone. Many of us interested in including couples…

What We Do at National Marriage Seminars: Gottman Training & More

[caption id="attachment_4274" align="alignright" width="300"] Dr. Vagdevi Meunier conducts a Level I Gottman Training in Dallas. National Marriage Seminars is committed to providing cutting-edge educational opportunities for MFT clinicians and other mental healthcare professionals.[/caption] National Marriage Seminars is dedicated to helping marriage and family therapists and their patients gain a…

How to Prepare for Success as a Couples Therapist

[caption id="attachment_2186" align="alignleft" width="90"] Dr. Vagdevi Meunier[/caption] A therapist who seeks a career as a marriage and family clinician should be prepared to pursue sufficient training in the specific and highly specialized skills necessary to effective work with couples. Part of the problem is that many teachers, as well as students, in the field of counseling assume that generalist…

Vanilla Sex: What it is and why you should enjoy it

[caption id="attachment_2186" align="alignleft" width="90"] Dr. Vagdevi Meunier[/caption] Sex is everywhere in American culture. From sports advertisements to the sale of food, it is not hard to find a svelte, gorgeous model biting into a giant hamburger or hanging on to the hood of a new car. Yet as a general public, we are reticent, awkward and unfamiliar with sex talk with our intimate partners.…

Why It's OK to Forget Valentine's Day

[caption id="attachment_4064" align="alignright" width="300"] Don't feel pressured to "celebrate" Valentine's Day just because society says you should. If it doesn't suit you, feel free to forget it; but remember to work on your relationship every day.[/caption] [caption id="attachment_2186" align="alignleft" width="90"] Dr. Vagdevi Meunier[/caption] Saturday marks the yearly ritual in America when…

3 Steps to Break the Argument Cycle: Access, Respond, Engage

[caption id="attachment_2186" align="alignleft" width="90"] Dr. Vagdevi Meunier[/caption] A telling conversation was relayed to me during a recent couples therapy session: The ringing telephone broke through George's reverie as he was surfing on his laptop. "Hello?" It was his wife, Alice. He could hear an edge in her voice. Anxious, he thought. "Hi, honey, I am so glad I was able to get you,"…