Art & Science of Love Weekend – Costa Mesa, CA – Sep 15-16, 2018

Art and Science of Love Weekend – Costa Mesa, CA

Saturday, September 15 – Sunday, September 16, 2018



Dates: September 15-16, 2018
Time: 9:30a – 6:00p
Price: $799 per couple

Presented by: Nancy D. Young, Ph.D., Certified Gottman Therapist and Master Trainer                                                                    

This comprehensive, science-based couple and marriage workshop & retreat is appropriate for couples of every age, ability, and sexual orientation: premarital, engaged, married, cohabiting, gay, straight, happy or struggling couples.  All of the ideas presented to you will be grounded in sound and extensive scientific research brought to you from the Gottman Relationship Institute. You will learn what actually works in relationships that are happy and stable.

2 days of engaging information and experiential activities designed to confirm, strengthen, or restore your love. No public discussion or disclosure is involved.All work is done as a couple and Dr. Young will be available to help those who need it.

  • Shown to achieve results similar to those of 6 months of marital therapy
  • Produces positive results for 86% of those who attend

Based on over 40 years of research, by John & Julie Gottman, with thousands of couples, The Art & Science of Love workshop will give you new insights and research-based skills that can dramatically improve the intimacy and friendship in your relationship and help you manage conflict in a healthy, positive way. Along with the memory of re-connecting and the knowledge that “we can do this,” you will take home a box set of cards, tools, and tips to support your relationship in your everyday lives.


Research shows that on average, couples wait six years from the first signs of problems before they seek help. The workshop is designed to strengthen your marriage and/or relationship. If you have a strong relationship, this workshop will provide you with insights and tools to make it a great one. If your relationship is distressed, this workshop will provide a road map for repair.


How to:

  • Foster respect, affection and closeness
  • Keep conflict discussions calm
  • Build and share a deeper connection
  • Break through and resolve conflict gridlock
  • Strengthen and maintain success in your relationship


In addition to a greater understanding of how to build friendship, manage conflict, and create shared meaning in your relationship, you will receive a box set, which contains:

  • 7 Card Decks: Love Map, Opportunity, Open-ended Questions, Rituals of Connection, Salsa(Mild, Medium and Hot)
  • 2 Couples Workbooks
  • Repair Checklist
  • Aftermath of a Fight Booklet
  • Sound Relationship House Magnet


You’ll use these tools in the workshop’s one-on-one exercises and, hopefully, in the ongoing resolutions and deepenings of your relationship when you go home after our weekend together.


The Art and Science of Love Workshop is designed to strengthen your relationship through engaging presentations and skill building exercises that are grounded in research.  Dr. Nancy will share humorous stories, film clips and role plays.  During the first day, you will learn how to build and maintain fondness, admiration, and closeness in your relationship or marriage.  On the second day, you will work on conflict management while learning new and important communication skills.  All of the exercises are designed to address your real-life challenges and you will work only with your partner.  During the exercises, Dr. Nancy will be available to consult with those couples who desire help.  There is no group work or public disclosure. This is an experiential, psycho-educational workshop for couples, and is not therapy. At the end of the workshop you will leave with a greater understanding of your relationship and the skills to repair or enhance it.

“If you’ve ever been to tennis camp, you probably learned how to hit a forehand, a backhand, a lob, and serve. Tennis camp wasn’t exactly a tournament… It was a place to go and learn and practice the skills you needed to be a good tournament player. This workshop is like that: you will learn skills to practice in your life together over and over and, if you do, your relationship (just like your tennis game) will get better and better.”
— Dr. Nancy


The Five Basic Questions:

How is your marriage / relationship doing?

  • What makes relationships change, for better or for worse?
  • If your relationship is in trouble, how can you turn it around?
  • If your relationship is doing well, how can you ensure that it will continue to grow?
  • As your relationship improves, how can you make changes last? 

Assessing Your Relationship:

  • Learn to recognize the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse and what to do if they are attacking your relationship/marriage
  • Identify your relationship’s specific strengths and how to build on these
  • Learn about the effects of physiological flooding and how it may impede conflict resolution
  • Learn the small, easy steps that increase romance in your relationship 

Building a “Sound Relationship House”:

  • Learn how Love Maps provide a solid foundation for intimacy
  • Use the Fondness and Admiration System to renew respect and care for one another
  • Create an Emotional Bank Account that you can draw upon in times of stress
  • Develop your problem-solving skills and learn effective conflict resolution
  • Find out how you can make your dreams and aspirations come true for you, your partner, and your relationship

Please Note: A brief telephone interview of all attendees is required before confirming participation in the workshop. Once payment is received, you will be contacted to set up the phone interview.

How does the Weekend Couples Workshops compare to Couples or Marriage Counseling? Whether you choose to work on your relationship in The Art & SCIENCE of Love (ASL): Weekend Couples Workshops, or in Couples or Marriage Counseling with a Gottman Certified Therapist, you are in good hands. In both venues you will be actively working with your partner in structured exercises designed to build your connection and increase understanding and empathy for one another even when you disagree. The workshop is a very powerful change agent for most couples and can accelerate progress significantly for many couples. Some couples may need to go more slowly and would flourish with more assistance than can be provided in a workshop setting. If you have any questions about the best fit for your particular situation, feel free to call or email Steph at 714-432-9856 ext 4 or to discuss the most helpful option for your individual situation.


Disclaimer, Refund, Policy Cancellation Policy Agreement*

Refund Policy: In the event, a seminar is canceled Connect Couples Therapy, LLP is only responsible for reimbursement of fees paid for the seminar with the exception of force majeure. Connect Couples Therapy, LLP hosted events agrees to hold harmless National Marriage Seminars, Inc., its directors, and employees from any and all liability associated with those travel and event arrangements. By registering for any event through National Marriage Seminars, Inc. website the individual or entity agrees to these terms.

Disclaimer & Cancellation Policy: All registrations are final. Those unable to attend the event they have registered for may transfer to a future Connect Couples Therapy, LLP  hosted training minus a 20% administrative fee. In order to obtain this transfer voucher Connect Couples Therapy, LLP must be notified at least 30 days prior to the date of the event at  This is a non-hosted or sponsored National Marriage Seminars training. The individual or entity that made the arrangements to attend a Connect Couples Therapy, LLP hosted event agrees to hold harmless National Marriage Seminars, Inc., its directors, and employees from any and all liability associated with this training.

CE’s: CE’s are NOT included in the price of these workshops, however, they will be available for purchase at the event.

Grievance Policy: It is the mission of National Marriage Seminars of America to find presenters who serve as a gateway to enhance clinical skills and to produce and distribute their work with integrity. We also believe in creating a learning environment that respects the diversity our attendees bring to these events. If you are dissatisfied with your experience, please email us at or contact us via phone at 813-960-0001 to further discuss your concerns.



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