EFT - Emotionally Focused Therapy

Register for our 4 Day Externship, EFFT, and On-Demand Offerings

"The most functional way to regulate emotions in love relationships is to share them." - Dr. Sue Johnson

Details and Registration

A Four Day Externship

  • Please contact lori@nationalmarriageseminars.com regarding our payment plan option.

Learn the concepts and theory of Emotionally Focused Therapy to help restore and deepen the emotional bond between couples.
Registration Fee: $780-$850per person | Cost Includes: 4-day training, EFT Manual

  • Earn 28 CE hours

Through a combination of lecture, videotape, observation of live interviews and exercises, participants will learn the basic concepts and theory of Emotionally Focused Therapy; identify the stages and steps of treatment; begin to formulate problematic cycles of interaction; and help couples end cycles of blame and disengagement so that they can restore and deepen the emotional bond between them. Sue Johnson’s second edition of The Practice of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy: Creating Connections is recommended reading for all participants. Experienced, local EFT supervisors will be available to assist small group learning and practice.

One of the premier EFT trainers will combine lecture, filmed demonstration, and experimental exercises to teach the concepts behind Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for couples and give participants a sense of what it looks and feels like to work with couples using the framework of attachment theory.

EFT for couples is a model developed by Dr. Sue Johnson that draws from over 25 years of outcome research and translates attachment processes into precise clinical interventions

Program Objectives:

Participants working in the following fields will benefit from this training:

  1. Name 2 advances in the new current era of couples therapy
  2. Describe the attachment map of couple’s therapy process
  3. Describe the “within” and “between” processes of EFT
  4. Name the 4 “Ps” of the EFT process
  5. Name the 3 predominant theories that EFT is based upon
  6. Name the 4 attachment styles
  7. Describe the process of attachment distress
  8. Describe how EFT defines emotion
  9. Describe the process model of emotion as defined by Magda Arnold
  10. Name the 6 core emotions
  11. Describe how EFT clinically uses emotion to create connection
  12. Name the 9 steps of EFT
  13. Name the 3 stages of EFT
  14. Name the key change events in EFT
  15. Describe at least 3 elements of the EFT assessment process
  16. Recognize process assessment
  17. Discuss attachment assessment
  18. Describe how the systemic pattern (cycle) becomes THE relational problem
  19. Name the different structural elements/parts of the cycle
  20. Name the different types of cycles
  21. Describe 3 underlying emotions that withdrawers feel
  22. Describe 3 underlying emotions that pursuers feel
  23. Define the EFT clinical skills associated with De-escalation
  24. Define the EFT experiential interventions
  25. Describe RISSSC
  26. Describe the withdrawer engagement key change event
  27. Describe the pursuer softening key change event
  28. List the 6 themes of blamer softening
  29. Define what an Enactment is
  30. Describe what an Attachment injury is

Therapists working in the following field with benefit in this training

  • Psychologists
  • Social Workers
  • Marriage and Family Therapists
  • Professional Counselors
  • Addiction Counselors
  • Other Mental Health Professionals



Research shows that intimate partner violence is rather frequent; even more so in couples seeking couple therapy. However, the subject of violence often remains hidden from the therapist. Or due to contraindication, couples seeking therapy are often refused.

In many couples, the underlying strength, heavy negative interaction patterns are paramount in the violence. These patterns form a challenge for many therapists in working with these couples, and often the violence between the partners is central to the therapeutic process. In this case, it is remarkable that these couples mostly want us, the therapist, to work toward a safer relationship where they can stay together and the violence stops. How can this be approached when violence is often seen as a contraindication for couple therapy and EFT?

Based on new scientific knowledge about intimate partner violence and their experience, Lieven and Jef have worked together to come to a deeper understanding of this difficult relational drama.

In this workshop, Lieven and Jef outline a theoretical roadmap how we can understand intimate partner violence from an attachment focused point of view, and how we can use EFT in helping these couples to fight for a healthier, safer connection. Specific interventions to use will be outlined and we’ll discuss several important topics such as assessment, de-escalation, the attachment meanings of violence, and common self-of-therapist challenges.

This two-day workshop will include:

Lecture, Q & A, video material, and exercises with space for participant dialogue. The workshop offers a mini roadmap that can be inserted in the larger EFT map for therapy.

Participants should have basic training in EFT.



​Emotionally Focused Family Therapy (EFFT) is an attachment-based approach that combines both systemic and experiential interventions to mend broken bonds and heal fractured families. EFFT therapists focus on the emotional experience within a family and the problem patterns that block family members from accessing the resources they would otherwise share.

EFFT is an attachment-based approach that combines both systemic and experiential interventions to mend broken bonds and heal fractured families. EFFT therapists focus on the emotional experience within a family and the problem patterns that block family members from accessing the resources they would otherwise share.

A primary goal of EFFT is to reduce problematic behavior by creating new patterns of emotional accessibility and responsiveness that offer a secure base for children to develop and families to thrive. EFFT provides a practical approach to engaging families at an emotional level. Accessing, processing, and connecting family members through the power of emotional experience promotes healing and fosters a family’s resilience to the everyday and unexpected challenges of life. 

This workshops combine didactic instruction, experiential exercises, and case examples to demonstrate the practice of EFFT.  Participants are encouraged to bring examples from their casework to explore the application of EFFT to their own work. Videotaped and/or live demonstration sessions are included. 


This is the first level, foundational teachings of the  EFFT model. The presenter will demonstrate how the EFT model of working with couples is extended and modified to fit the family context.

Core EFFT competencies will be clearly delineated with a general focus on key elements in the EFT process and its application to family relationships.  Attention will be given to how EFT practice with families is different and what additional skills are needed. For example, how to process parental blocks to emotional accessibility and responsiveness while also keeping the child safe will be a dynamic addressed.

​Participants will learn a powerful and transformative approach that is crucial for helping parents and children who are struggling with remaining securely attached. An overview on practices for working through negative patterns, accessing and deepening emotions to promote corrective emotional experiences in family relationships will also be described. 

EFFT-1 Program Objectives:
1. Analyze family distress using theories of emotion and attachment
2.Utilize key practices of EFFT from EFT work with couples
3.Identify the stages and marker of change in the EFFT approach
4. Identify therapist practices that promote a working alliance with parents and children
5. Compile strategies for strengthening parental ownership for the EFFT process
6. Apply key interventions common to processing attachment related affect
7. Describe a 5-step sequence for accessing and working with emotion in family relationships
8. Analyze parent-child interactions using EFT practices to work through specific relational blocks
9. Demonstrate enactments used to restructure new patterns of interaction promoting new levels of safety and security in the family
10. Identify differences in applying EFFT to treatment of step-family relationships
11. Explain the relationship of secure attachment to family patterns of resilience