“Double Betrayal” Makes it WorseDr. William Bumberry With the central pillar of relationships  based on trust and connection, it’s not surprising that infidelity changes everything … in a flash.  While betrayals come in many shapes and sizes, the betrayal of infidelity may be the most painful of all.  The dual components of emotional, as well…

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Why do you rob banks?Because that’s where the money is.…… Willie Sutton Why should you attend Creating Connections?Because that’s where the emotions are.…… Attachment Theory These simple words of notorious bank robber Willie Sutton reveal a basic understanding of how to succeed in any chosen profession.  Start simple and stay with the heart of the…

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By Vagdevi Meunier, Psy.D. A child is playing ball with her father in the backyard with great excitement and joy because she is the center of his attention and sees him enjoying their game.  Minutes later the child takes a wild swing and ball flies way outside the father’s reach and falls down in a…

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By Vagdevi Meunier, Psy.D. Health is not a negative.  Health is NOT the absence of disease.  To be healthy does not mean to survive or make it through life, with average daily living skills.   Health is not measured in symptoms, signs, or charts.  Health is not the functional measure of specific organs or body parts.…

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By Vagdevi Meunier, Psy.D. In the middle of May, I had an opportunity to travel to Ottawa, Canada with Chris Cambas of National Marriage Seminars to participate in a one of a kind experience.   We were there to nurture our bond with Dr. Sue Johnson but also to help her throw a Twitter Party.  …

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By Vagdevi Meunier, Psy.D. “I just feel so abandoned by him”, she says.  A twitching muscle in her jaw is the only clue to the tension she carries in her body.  “Even our dog feels so abandoned that he leaves little pools of urine by the front door”. As Susie is saying this, Dirk sits…

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By Vagdevi Meunier Psy.D.April 28, 2015 Generally speaking, a private psychotherapy practice is an isolated activity.  I remember dreaming of the day when I would open my own practice, hang out my shingle, and the clients would pour in, wanting my services.  Right?  Well, not exactly.  The first couple of months in my newly formed…

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If you are a clinician looking to begin or improve your practice as a couples therapist, you might experience some trepidation and self-doubt in your ability to help couples. Let me assure you that you are not alone. Many of us interested in including couples therapy among our modalities felt worried and sometimes isolated in…

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Imagine you’re having dinner with friends.  While catching up, you listen to them talk about their wonderful, positive relationships.  When it’s your turn, they ask, ‘So how about you’?  You pause and realize you’re the ONLY one who isn’t happy with your relationship.  Come to think of it, you’ve been settling for someone just for…

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